Saturday, December 31, 2011

2011

Hey friends and family,

I just woke up from a nap I was trying so hard not to take.  I only slept for an hour so maybe it won’t disrupt my night’s sleep too much.   I had already decided I was going to sleep either on the couch or in my recliner.  Lately, my back has been really bothering me when I sleep in the bed.  It’s either a sign of old age or I need a new mattress.  Oh, well.

I had a good day today; met some friends for breakfast at TL’s, then we worked at the Church most of the day “un-decorating” it; went to the grocery store and then came home and cooked a ham and made a pot of vegetable soup. Nice day, all in all.  I doubt very seriously I will see the end of 2011 tonight.  It isn’t as important as it used to be to sit up and see the ball drop or whatever else happens at midnight.

I remember some of the New Year’s parties of the past.  Thankfully, I never was a drinking person, but I did attend some good parties.  I remember one in particular – 12/31/68.  My mother-in-law made me a beautiful red dress trimmed in gold braid and my husband and I went to a formal Jaycee party.  We had such a good time that night; probably one of the best times we had together.  I remember some not quite so fondly but I guess all of them led me to where I am tonight.

I think back over 2011.  It was a strange year in a lot of ways.  There were a lot of natural disasters – earthquakes, floods, hurricanes.  We even had an earthquake that was felt over most of the eastern seaboard…I missed it.  I never felt a thing.  Hurricane Irene struck North Carolina the last weekend in August and some parts of Dare County will never be the same.  A new inlet was opened on the Southern beaches and as a result a new bridge had to be built…maybe a temporary thing….maybe not.  Several families have left that portion of the beach with no intention of returning.  Family businesses which have been in business for more years than I have been on this wonderful earth will never reopen again.  Stumpy Point village was forever changed but I really have to applaud that little village and its inhabitants.  They have persevered and seem to be rebuilding their lives and getting back to normal.  Or what passes for normal after such devastation.  My niece and her husband watched the water rise in Windsor and came so close to losing their livelihood for the second time due to water  Thankfully I came through the storm pretty much unscathed.  My home suffered only minor damage and I am truly thankful for that.  The water was higher in Manteo than ever recorded before.  When I saw some of the pictures on the computer while I was staying at my sister’s, I could not believe how high it was.  It was almost two feet high in my office.  My office building is probably one of the oldest buildings in Manteo and has its own unique charm.  Now-post Irene-it’s just a sad little building.  It would only take a little work and a little money to repair it, but my boss doesn’t seem to be interested.  I got it as clean as I could but quite frankly, I am ashamed of it.  I just deal with it – probably won’t have too many more years there anyway.

One of my nieces and her husband celebrated their 25th. wedding anniversary with a surprise party.  Not many marriages make it to 25 years anymore.  Congratulations Gail and Jeff.  A couple in my Church celebrated their 60th. wedding anniversary.  That was a milestone absolutely worth celebrating-congratulations Stafford and Jean. New babies were born, some special friends passed away and the world just kept on spinning.  Just a few weeks ago, my first grade school teacher, Mrs. Bertha Barnacasle passed away – she was 104 years old and until just a month or so before she died, she lived by herself and was pretty much self-sustaining.  I would love to be so blessed.

I still have special friends fighting for the good ole USA overseas  and I would love to see them come home for good – Melissa Sizer and Clayton Holliday.  Clayton, an Army Ranger,  was able to come home this summer for a few weeks for the birth of his second child.  He has a wonderful wife and two beautiful boys.  Melissa is a medic, taking care of our soldiers.  I’ve never met her; she is Ray’s special friend.  She has a son also and I know he misses her very much.  I’m ready for all our troops to come home.  They’ve been in the Middle East long enough…way longer than they should have been…and it’s time to get them home.

I read a post on Facebook a little while ago written by a young womanI refuse to complain about how "awful" 2011 was......yes, it had its hard times, BUT: God blessed me with a wonderful job, I got to see my beautiful daughter's first birthday, and I got to watch God's healing power as he took all the cancer out of my dad's body---and allowed him to walk me down the aisle. 2011 was another year of blessings.  Her comments really put a lot of things in the proper prospective.  I had some health problems in 2011, but none of them were very serious.  Some of them were a little scary when they happened but God saw me through all of them. Thankfully I think I am finally on top of the vertigo that has troubled me for many years.  I’m still fighting the spider bites I got while cleaning up the office after Irene.  So I still have sporadic times of frenzied itching. 

One of the highlights of this year was the homecoming of the Dickens family.  Joel and Cynthia along with their children, Morgan, Aydan, Daniella and Abigail, are missionaries in Brazil.  They arrived in Brazil  in April 2005.  Their daughter, Abigail, was born over there in 2006.  I was blessed to visit them in May 2006.  Having them home has been great.  They’ve been able to stay with me several times while visiting Churches to share their experiences in the mission field and to raise more support.  I can only imagine how thrilled Cynthia’s parents were to see them when they came through the airport.  You see, they had not seen them since they left – almost 6 six years ago.  They had never seen their granddaughter, Abigail, except in pictures or when talking to her on the computer.  I know their hearts must have been so full of love and happiness.  They will be leaving in July to head back home ‘cause now Brazil is their home.  They love their people there and even though they are enjoying their time here in the states with their families and friends…they miss their people.

I wonder what 2012 has in store for me.  I pray God will still bless with me with good health.  I pray the economy will turn around and people will be able to turn their financial lives around.  I would like to be able to see Ray again.  It’s been 3 ½ years since I’ve seen him and I miss him a lot.  He seems to be doing well and I think he still likes living in Alaska.  I know he gets homesick and I think he will move somewhere in the lower states when Melissa returns from her tour of duty.  I’ve prayed for God to send someone to Ray who will love him and want to spend her life with him and I think Melissa may be the one.  TJ and his family are doing well.  His teenage daughter, Hannah, went to live with them in August.  I know her Mom and family, here in Manteo, miss her a lot but I am really glad TJ is having the opportunity to be a full-time Dad.  He loves Hannah a lot and really enjoys having her live with them.  There have been a few trials, as there are in all families, but this is a special time for TJ.

I wish I could just snap my fingers and heal some of my friends and family.  Both my sisters are struggling with health problems now; both in pain and I wish I could make it better for them.  I have a friend, Jerry, who has been dealing with chronic pain for a long while and I wish I could just speak it away. Joyce, a special friend of mine, also has chronic pain.  She is in her 80’s and to make matters worse, when we were trying to evacuate during Irene, she took a tumble and broke 10 ribs.  Not such an easy thing for anybody, but especially someone 80+.  I have several friends who are struggling financially and I wish I had the money to take away those cares.  I wish I could provide a home for my Pastor and his wife and open an employment door for her so they could be with us all the time.  I wish I could take away world hunger and famine.  I wish I could end all the wars and the world be peaceful…no one getting killed or maimed.  I wish I could discover a cure for cancer, so one of my friends, Tim, wouldn’t have to worry if his was coming back. I wish I could stop child abuse and find happy, healthy homes for all the children who don’t have one.   I wish I could stop the bullying that goes on, especially among teenagers.  I wish I could impress upon young teenage girls to not get pregnant, since some of them make this a choice.  I wish I could close all the nursing homes and put those “old people” in loving homes.  I wish…….a lot of things.  But we all know, I can’t do anything about any of the things I’ve mentioned.  I can only pray about it and trust God to take care of it.  

So, my friends, 2011 is almost at an end.  I hope 2012 brings all of you special blessings.   I pray it will be your best year ever.  May it be filled with love, peace, joy and an abundance of God’s blessings.  May we all find the time to slow down and enjoy all the wonderful blessings God puts in our way every day. Some of you I’ve never met, yet I feel like I know you.  I have shared laughs and tears, joy and sorrow all through the modern technology of the wonderful world of cyberspace.  I’ve rekindled old friendships and made new ones.  I’ve shared some of my deepest thoughts and then, sometimes, some of my silliest.  And so far, I haven’t lost a friend.  I love all of you wonderful people.

Happy New Year from my house to yours.  God bless you.

Brenda
boutlaw@carolinaregion.com


Saturday, December 3, 2011

A Different Christmas Poem

The embers glowed softly and in their dim light I gazed round the room and I cherished the sight. My wife was asleep, her head on my chest; my daughter beside me, angelic in rest. Outside the snow fell, a blanket of white, transforming the yard to a winter delight. The sparkling lights in the tree, I believe, completed the magic that was Christmas Eve. My eyelids were heavy, my breathing was deep, secure and surrounded by love I would sleep in perfect contentment, or so it would seem. So I slumbered, perhaps I started to dream.

The sound wasn't loud and it wasn't too near. But I opened my eyes when it tickled my ear. Perhaps just a cough, I didn't quite know, then the sure sound of footsteps outside in the snow. My soul gave a tremble, I struggled to hear and I crept to the door just to see who was near. Standing out in the cold and the dark of the night, a lone figure stood - his face weary and tight.

A soldier, I puzzled some twenty years old. Perhaps a Marine, huddled there in the cold. Alone in the dark, he looked up and smiled, standing watch over me and my wife and my child. "What are you doing?" I asked without fear. "Come in this moment, it's freezing out here! Put down your pack, brush the snow from your sleeve. You should be at home on a cold Christmas Eve."

For barely a moment I saw his eyes shift away from the cold and the snow blown in drifts...to the window that danced with a warm fire's light. Then he sighed and he said, "It's really all right. I'm out here by choice. I'm here every night."

"It's my duty to stand at the front of the line that separates you from the darkest of times. No one had to ask or beg or implore me. I'm proud to stand here like my father's before me. My Gramps died at Pearl on a day in December." Then he sighed, "That's a Christmas Gram always remembers. My dad stood his watch in the jungles of 'Nam and now it is my turn and so, here I am. I've not seen my own son in more than a while. But my wife sends me pictures; he's sure got her smile."

Then he bent and he carefully pulled from his bag the red, white and blue...an American flag. "I can live through the cold and the being alone, away from my family, my house and my home. I can stand at my post through the rain and the sleet. I can sleep in a foxhole with little to eat. I can carry the weight of killing another or lay down my life with my sister and brother who stand at the front against any and all to ensure for all time that this flag will not fall."

"So go back inside," he said, "harbor no fright. Your family is waiting and I'll be all right."
"But isn't there something I can do..at the least give you money" I asked, "or prepare you a feast? It seems all too little for all that you've done for being away from your wife and your son." Then his eyes welled a tear that held no regret..."Just tell us you love us and never forget to fight for our rights back at home while we're gone; to stand your own watch, no matter how long. For when we come home, either standing or dead, to know you remember we fought and we bled is payment enough and with that we will trust that we mattered to you as you mattered to us."

At this time of year...really all year long...we need to remember our US service men and women and our Police officers and Firefighters who lay their lives on the line for us every single day. Remember their families who also sacrifice.
Remember their families who also sacrifice.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

FW: Fw: Christmas shopping?

 

 

 

 

 

 

As the holidays approach, the giant Asian factories are kicking into high
gear to provide Americans with monstrous piles of cheaply produced goods --
merchandise that has been produced at the expense of American labor. This
year will be different. This year Americans will give the gift of genuine
concern for other Americans. There is no longer an excuse that, at gift
giving time, nothing can be found that is produced by American hands. Yes
there is!

It's time to think outside the box, people. Who says a gift needs to fit in
a shirt box, wrapped in Chinese produced wrapping paper?
Everyone -- yes EVERYONE gets their hair cut. How about gift certificates
from your local American hair salon or barber?

Gym membership? It's appropriate for all ages who are thinking about some
health improvement.

Who wouldn't appreciate getting their car detailed? Small, American owned
detail shops and car washes would love to sell you a gift certificate or a
book of gift certificates.

Are you one of those extravagant givers who think nothing of plunking down
the Benjamin's on a Chinese made flat-screen? Perhaps that grateful gift
receiver would like his driveway sealed, or lawn mowed for the summer, or
driveway plowed all winter, or games at the local golf course.

There are a bazillion owner-run restaurants -- all offering gift
certificates. And, if your intended isn't the fancy eatery sort, what about
a half dozen breakfasts at the local breakfast joint. Remember, folks this
isn't about big National chains -- this is about supporting your home town
Americans with their financial lives on the line to keep their doors open.

How many people couldn't use an oil change for their car, truck or
motorcycle, done at a shop run by the American working guy?

Thinking about a heartfelt gift for mom? Mom would LOVE the services of a
local cleaning lady for a day.

My computer could use a tune-up, and I KNOW I can find some young guy who is
struggling to get his repair business up and running.

OK, you were looking for something more personal. Local crafts people spin
their own wool and knit them into scarves. They make jewelry, and pottery
and beautiful wooden boxes.

Plan your holiday outings at local, owner operated restaurants and leave
your server a nice tip. And, how about going out to see a play or ballet at
your hometown theatre.

Musicians need love too, so find a venue showcasing local bands.

Honestly, people, do you REALLY need to buy another ten thousand Chinese
lights for the house? When you buy a five dollar string of light, about
fifty cents stays in the community. If you have those kinds of bucks to
burn, leave the mailman, trash guy or babysitter a nice BIG tip.

You see, Christmas is no longer about draining American pockets so that
China can build another glittering city. Christmas is now about caring about
US, encouraging American small businesses to keep plugging away to follow
their dreams. And, when we care about other Americans, we care about our
communities, and the benefits come back to us in ways we couldn't imagine.
THIS is the new American Christmas tradition.
Forward this to everyone on your mailing list -- post it to discussion
groups -- throw up a post on Craigslist in the Rants and Raves section in
your city -- send it to the editor of your local paper and radio stations,
and TV news departments. This is a revolution of caring about each other,
and isn't that what Christmas is about?





 

FW: SOON TO BE GONE


SOON TO BE GONE
By Capt. Steven Ellison, MD
A MILITARY DOCTOR


This should be required reading in every school and college in our country.
This Captain, an Army doctor, deserves a medal himself for putting this together. If you choose not to pass it on, fine, but I think you will want to, after you read it.






I am a doctor specializing in the Emergency Departments of the only two military Level One-Trauma Centers, both in San Antonio , TX and they care for civilian Emergencies as well as military personnel.
San Antonio has the largest military retiree population in the world living here. As a military doctor, I work long hours and the pay is less than glamorous. One tends to become jaded by the long hours, lack of sleep, food, family contact and the endless parade of human suffering passing before you. The arrival of another ambulance does not mean more pay, only more work. Most often, it is a victim from a motor vehicle crash.



Often it is a person of dubious character who has been shot or stabbed. With our large military retiree population, it is often a nursing home patient. Even with my enlisted service and minimal combat experience in Panama , I have caught myself groaning when the ambulance brought in yet another sick, elderly person from one of the local retirement centers that cater to military retirees. I had not stopped to think of what citizens of this age group represented.




I saw 'Saving Private Ryan.'
I was touched deeply. Not so much by the carnage, but by the sacrifices of so many. I was touched most by the scene of the elderly survivor at the graveside, asking his wife if he'd been a good man. I realized that I had seen these same men and women coming through my Emergency Dept.. and had not realized what magnificent sacrifices they had made. The things they did for me and everyone else that has lived on this planet since the end of that conflict are priceless.



Situation permitting, I now try to ask my patients about their experiences. They would never bring up the subject without the inquiry. I have been privileged to an amazing array of experiences, recounted in the brief minutes allowed in an Emergency Dept encounter. These experiences have revealed the incredible individuals I have had the honor of serving in a medical capacity, many on their last admission to the hospital.




There was a frail, elderly woman who reassured my young enlisted medic, trying to start an IV line in her arm.
She remained calm and poised, despite her illness and the multiple needle-sticks into her fragile veins. She was what we call a 'hard stick.' As the medic made another attempt, I noticed a number tattooed across her forearm. I touched it with one finger and looked into her eyes. She simply said, ' Auschwitz .' Many of later generations would have loudly and openly berated the young medic in his many attempts. How different was the response from this person who had seen unspeakable suffering.




Also, there was this long retired Colonel, who as a young officer had parachuted from his burning plane over a Pacific Island held by the Japanese.
Now an octogenarian, he had a minor cut on his head from a fall at his home where he lived alone. His CT scan and suturing had been delayed until after midnight by the usual parade of high priority ambulance patients. Still spry for his age, he asked to use the phone to call a taxi, to take him home, then he realized his ambulance had brought him without his wallet. He asked if he could use the phone to make a long distance call to his daughter who lived 7 miles away. With great pride we told him that he could not, as he'd done enough for his country and the least we could do was get him a taxi home, even if we had to pay for it ourselves. My only regret was that my shift wouldn't end for several hours, and I couldn't drive him myself.




I was there the night M/Sgt Roy Benavidez came through the Emergency Dept. for the last time.
He was very sick. I was not the doctor taking care of him, but I walked to his bedside and took his hand. I said nothing. He was so sick; he didn't know I was there. I had read his Congressional Medal of Honor citation and wanted to shake his hand. He died a few days later.



The gentleman who served with Merrill's Marauders,



the survivor of the Bataan Death March,


the survivor of Omaha Beach ,



the 101 year old World War I veteran.


The former POW held in frozen North Korea


The former Special Forces medic - now with non-operable liver cancer


the former Viet Nam Corps Commander..


I may still groan when yet another ambulance comes in, but now I am much more aware of what an honor it is to serve these particular men and women.


I have seen a Congress who would turn their back on these individuals who've sacrificed so much to protect our liberty. I see later generations that seem to be totally engrossed in abusing these same liberties, won with such sacrifice



It has become my personal endeavor to make the nurses and young enlisted medics aware of these amazing individuals when I encounter them in our Emergency Dept. Their response to these particular citizens has made me think that perhaps all is not lost in the next generation.



My experiences have solidified my belief that we are losing an incredible generation, and this nation knows not what it is losing. We should all remember that we must 'Earn this.'




Written By CAPT. Stephen R. Ellison, M.D. US Army
My own personal note: If it were not for these faithful, loyal, strong persons, there would not be a United States of America.
I ask that you pray for these aging and dying service members. I also think every American citizen
should read this. So, if you agree, send it on.




Friday, November 4, 2011

what a beautiful morning.

Good morning everyone.  I know you must think I am crazy considering what I put as the subject of this email.  If your weather is like my weather, I would not generally describe it as a beautiful morning. But let me tell you a little story and you’ll see where I am coming from.

 

It all started Sunday morning shortly after I got up.  I had a very bad pain in my right shoulder – around on my back in what I call the shoulder muscle.  I still had it Monday and Tuesday and by Wednesday it was pretty much a constant pain.  I had decided I probably has bursitis.  Now I know I’m not a doctor, but the internet is a great thing and I had all the symptoms.  At Church Wednesday night I wiggled and squirmed, trying to find a comfortable position.  If a child had been sitting beside me doing all that moving, I’m pretty sure I would have told him/her to “sit still”.  Finally I sat with the corner of the pew pushing into the muscle and for some reason that eased it off a little.

 

First thing Thursday morning I went to the doctor.  Four hours later….yep….four hours….I find that maybe it’s spurs or arthritis.  Not what I wanted to hear.  But the doctor wants the radiologist to read the x-rays and give a professional opinion.  I respect that because I would rather the doctor not be second-guessing what might be wrong. So it will probably be Monday before I hear anything. She gave me some pain medication.  I came back to work and I hate to admit I didn’t get a thing done. But it hurt so bad, I just wanted to crawl in a hole and die!! I picked up the prescription after work, went home and took one of the pills right away.  Then I curled up in my recliner and waited for it to start to work.  It never did away with the pain but made it tolerable.  I took another before I went to bed and finally got a good night’s rest. 

 

I told you all that to tell you why it’s a beautiful morning.  When I opened my back door to go to my car, I saw the most beautiful sight.  There was a rainbow stretching from one side of the sky to the other.  The sky had been very dark when I had let Haley out a little earlier.  I stepped back in the house, picked up my camera (which always stays on my kitchen table) and took some pictures.  Then as I headed down my road to US 64 I noticed that it was either a double rainbow or a reflection of the first rainbow.  I don’t know which, but it was beautiful.  I stopped on the side of the road just before I got on the bridge to take more pictures.  I just couldn’t help but think of how magnificent God’s creations are.  Who can put a rainbow in the sky…God.  Why can’t everyone just get that through their heads? I am sure there are some scientists that will explain it all away- gases, or some such thing.  But I choose to believe God put it there this morning just to brighten my day. And it really worked. 

 

So, that’s why I say “what a beautiful morning”.  I know the sun isn’t shining brightly but I saw God’s promise that He would never destroy the world again with water.  It just brought to mind all the other promises He has made.   

 

I hope you can open the pictures.  The first two are taken from my back porch.  The last one is taken at the foot of the Manns Harbor Bridge looking North.  I hope you can see the second rainbow in that picture.  It’s very faint and to the right.

 

Have a great day everyone. 

 

 

 

Brenda

boutlaw@carolinaregion.com

 

 

Monday, October 10, 2011

Ladies and gentlemen!

Hey friends. It’s been a long time since I sent out an email….since shortly after Irene and that was just an update on my situation. I’ve heard from several of you wanting to know if I was okay and when was I going to start sending out emails again. So I guess tonight is the night.

If you noticed the subject line of this email you are probably wondering what I am going to write about. I’m giving you an early warning….I am going to get on my soapbox again so if you want to quit reading now, that is quite okay with me.

Now before I get hundreds of responses to this email telling me about all the situations that don’t fit my scenario, I realize there are exceptions to what I am going to say.

My Webster’s dictionary is very old; the copyright date is 1961. But I don’t honestly believe the definition of the two words I am going to talk about have changed since then.

Webster defines “lady” as a woman of refinement and gentle manners and a “gentlemen” as a man whose conduct conforms to a high standard of propriety or correct behavior. There are many other definitions of each word but they don’t apply to what I am going to talk about. Sad to say, I don’t know many men and women that deserve either of these titles today. And even sadder, it’s been that way for a while. I don’t often use either of those terms anymore; I can count on one hand, and have fingers left over, the number of ladies and gentlemen I know.

Most young people today don’t really seem to care what others think of them. They seem content to believe the world owes them a living and they can say anything they please or do anything they please without suffering any consequences. There is no sanctity in marriage or parenthood anymore. Men and women think nothing of living together without being married. They will tell you it’s easier; if they discover they can’t live together, they don’t have to go through a divorce. There’s no real incentive to work to keep the relationship strong. When I talk about this particular thing, I am guilty also. I lived with my husband for two years before we got married and the marriage still didn’t last. I look back now and realize how wrong it was and how both of us were cheated.

Parenthood….I don’t think many young people realize today exactly what that entails. Again, many children are born without the advantage of their parents being married. Often times, but not always, these children end up in the “system” because there is no responsibility involved. I see so many children today being raised by grandparents, and in some situations, the child is better off. There are many women that continue to have child after child because they don’t have to work and can get aid for each of these children. There are hundreds of men that aren’t taking care of their children, either in the home itself or by paying child support. The children are the ones who suffer in these cases. Several of the children that are picked up each Sunday morning by the van from my Church fit in this category. Sad to say, the only real attention some of them get is the short time they spend in Church on Sunday morning.

I got off my original subject about ladies and gentlemen so let me see if I can get back on track. I have a really hard time understanding how a woman who will wear a thong on the public beach can get upset when rude comments are made about her. Doesn’t she realize the picture she is putting out there for the world to see? They wear skirts that are so short that when they sit they have to put their hand in their lap so you don’t see their underwear; they go braless with thin shirts and think this is perfectly acceptable dress. Some of them wear their clothes so tight they look like they can hardly breathe. And a lot of these girls are still living at home with their parents, are in middle school and their parents allow them to dress this way.

Boys and men…..why do you think we want to see your underwear? What gives you the idea that this is appropriate dress? You really look retarded when you have to either hold your pants up when you walk or you have to pull them back up with every step you take. And even worse, to wear these pants and not have on any underwear. Lord, please spare me. And again, some of these boys are still living under their parent’s roof and their parents allow this. I thank the good Lord, I never had this problem in my home. TJ never wanted to dress that way and Ray tried it once and soon realized he didn’t want to dress that way either.

In case you are wondering why I got on this rant tonight, I’ll tell you. Today when I went to the post office, I saw a young man and woman (maybe in their middle 20’s) walking across the parking lot. Her skirt was so short you could see her underwear when she walked (by the way it was red), she had on a thin white tank top without a bra and she definitely needed one. The man had on a pair of pants with the seat between his knees and his underwear was white with blue stripes; his shirt was unbuttoned, which didn’t bother me too much except that he had an extremely large stomach hanging out. This couple walked along kissing, he was fondling her, she had her hand tucked down the back of his pants and she was pushing a baby stroller with a beautiful little girl in it. I just wanted to smack both of them.

I hope I haven’t offended anyone by this email. It just really bothers me to see what is and has been happening to the young people in our country. I really and truly feel sorry for them. So many of them are ruining their lives…babies having babies…and planning it. I guess all I can do is pray for them and I do. I hope you will too. As I said at the beginning of this email, I realize not all men and women are this way. There are some very nice young men and women out there; they are responsible and living a responsible life. I’m not talking about them. I just wish those I am talking about would wake up, take a good long look at themselves and change their lives before it is too late.

Sorry this email was so long. I guess I just needed to get this off my chest. I hope all of you have a great week.

We are having revival at my Church this week starting Wednesday night. Russell Bell will be bringing the messages and services start at 7:00 each night and it ends Sunday morning with the 10:45 worship service followed by Homecoming dinner. Maybe I’ll see some of you there. I can promise you a blessing if you come.

Brenda

boutlaw@carolinaregion.com

Saturday, August 20, 2011

FW: He qualifies the CALLED! D&JC

 

 

 

Subject: He qualifies the CALLED!

Jacob was a cheater. 
Peter had a temper. 
David had an affair.
Noah got drunk. 
Jonah ran from God. 
Paul was a murderer. 
Gideon was insecure. 
Miriam was a gossiper. 
Martha was a worrier. 
 Thomas was a doubter. 
Sarai (Sarah) was impatient. 
Elijah was fearful. 
Moses stuttered. 
Zaccheus was short. 
Abraham was old, and Lazarus was dead! 
Now what's YOUR excuse? 
Can God use you or not? God doesn't call the qualified. He qualifies the CALLED!


FREEDOM ISN'T FREE...SOMEONE HAD TO PAY FOR IT


2 Chron. 7:14 in God's word he states, "If my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land."

"Freedom has a taste, and for those that have fought for it,

the taste is so sweet the protected will never know..."

~ General George Patton

 


FW: WOW! AND DOUBLE WOW!!!


WOW AND DOUBLE WOW!!!!


What an honor to pass this along to people of faith!

A man from Norfolk , VA called a local radio station to share this on Sept 11th, 2003, TWO YEARS AFTER THE TRAGEDIES OF 9/11/2001.

His name was Robert Matthews. These are his words:

A few weeks before Sept. 11th, my wife and I found out we were goingto have our first child. She planned a trip out to California to visither sister. On our way to the airport, we prayed that God would grant; my wife a safe trip and be with her. Shortly after I said 'amen,' weboth heard a loud pop and the car shook violently. We had blown out atire. I replaced the tire as quickly as I could, but we still missed
her flight. Both very upset we drove home.

I received a call from my father who was retired NYFD. He asked whatmy wife's flight number was, but I explained that we missed theflight.

My father informed me that her flight was the one that crashed int the southern tower. I was too shocked to speak. My father also had more news for me; he was going to help. 'This is not something I can'tjust sit by for; I have to do something.'

I was concerned for his safety, of course, but more because he hadnever given his life to Christ. After a brief debate, I knew his mindwas made up. Before he got off of the phone, he said, 'take good care of my grandchild. Those were the last words I ever heard my fathersay; he died while helping in the rescue effort.

My joy that my prayer of safety for my wife had been answered quicklybecame anger. I was angry at God, at my father, and at myself. I hadgone for nearly two years blaming God for taking my father away. Myson would never know his grandfather, my father had never accepted Christ, and I never got to say good-bye.

Then something happened. About two months ago, I was sitting at homewith my wife and my son, when there was a knock on the door. I lookedat my wife, but I could tell she wasn't expecting anyone. I opened the door to a couple with a small child.; The man looked at me and asked if my father's name was Jake Matthews. I told him it was. He quickly grabbed my hand and said, 'I never got the chance to meet your father, but it is an honor to meet his son.'

He explained to me that his wife had worked in the World Trade Centerand had been caught inside after the attack. She was pregnant and had been caught under debris. He then explained that my father had beenthe one to find his wife and free her. My eyes welled up with tearsas I thought of my father giving his life for people like this. He then said, 'there is something else you need to know.'

His wife then told me that as my father worked to free her, she talkedto him and led him to Christ. I began sobbing at the news.

Now I know that when I get to Heaven, my father will be standingbeside Jesus to welcome me, and that this family would be able to thank him themselves .; When their baby boy was born, they named him Jacob Matthew, in honorof the man who gave his life so that a mother and baby could live.

This story should help us to realize this: God is always in control.

We may not see the reason behind things, and we may never know thisside of heaven, but God is ALWAYS in control.

Please take time to share this amazing story. You may never know theimpact it may have on someone. God doesn't call the qualified, Hequalifies the called.

Give thanks to the Lord for He is good. His love endures Forever.
Psalm 136:

May God bless you, and your family,

It's been reported that 86% of Americans believe in God. We are part
of that percentage...
'In God We Trust


FW: Obituary printed in the London Times RK



Our old friend "common sense" slipped away without notice.



Date: Monday, July 25, 2011, 8:00 PM

Different Spin on old idea.

Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as:

- Knowing when to come in out of the rain;
- Why the early bird gets the worm;
- Life isn't always fair;
- and maybe it was my fault.

Common Sense
lived by simple, sound financial policies (don't spend more than you can earn) and reliable strategies (adults, not children, are in charge).

His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a 6-year-old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition.

Common Sense
lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their unruly children.

It declined even further when schools were required to get parental consent to administer sun lotion or an aspirin to a student; but could not inform parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an abortion.

Common Sense
lost the will to live as the churches became businesses; and criminals received better treatment than their victims.

Common Sense
took a beating when you couldn't defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault.

Common Sense
finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to realise that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap and was promptly awarded a huge settlement.

Common Sense
was preceded in death, by his parents, Truth and Trust, by his wife, Discretion, by his daughter, Responsibility, and by his son, Reason.

He is survived by his 4 stepbrothers;
I Know My Rights
I Want It Now
Someone Else Is To Blame
I'm A Victim

Not many attended his funeral because so few realised he was gone. If you still remember him, pass this on.

FW: The Gray Brigade !!!! Not a Joke !! NZ

The Gray Brigade


They like to refer to us as senior citizens, old fogies, geezers, and in some cases dinosaurs. Some of us are "baby boomers" getting ready to retire. Others have been retired for some time.


We walk a little slower these days and our eyes and hearing are not what they once were.


We have worked hard, raised our children, worshiped our God and grown old together. Yes, we are the ones some refer to as being over the hill and that is probably true. But before writing us off completely, there are a few things that need to be taken into consideration. In school we studied English, history, math, and science which enabled us to lead America into the technological age..


Most of us remember what outhouses were, many of us with firsthand experience. We remember the days of telephone party lines, 25 cent gasoline, and milk and ice being delivered to our homes. For those of you who don't know what an icebox is, today they are electric and referred to as refrigerators. A few even remember when cars were started with a crank. Yes, we lived those days.We are probably considered old fashioned and out-dated by many.

But there are a few things you need to remember before completely writing us off. We won World War II and fought in Korea and VietNam. We can quote the pledge of allegiance, and know where to place our hand while doing so. We wore the uniform of our country with pride and lost many friends on the battlefield.. We didn't fight for the Socialist States of America , we fought for the "Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave." We wore different uniforms but carried the same flag. We know the words to the 'Star Spangled Banner', 'America' , and 'America the Beautiful' by heart, and you may even see some tears running down our cheeks as we sing.

We have lived what many of you have only read about in history books and we feel no obligation to apologize to anyone for America.


Yes, we are old and slow these days but rest assured, we have at least one good fight left in us. We have loved this country, fought for it, and died for it, and now we are going to save it. It is our country and nobody is going to take it away from us. We took oaths to defend America against all enemies, foreign and domestic, and that is an oath we plan to keep. There are those who want to destroy this land we love but, like our founders, there is no way we are going to remain silent.


It was the younger people of this nation who elected Obama and the Democrat Congress. You fell for the "hope and change" which in reality was nothing but "hype and lies." You have tasted Socialism and seen evil face to face, and have found you don't like it after all.


You make a lot of noise but most are all too interested in their careers or "climbing the social ladder" to be involved in such mundane things as patriotism and voting.


Many of those who fell for the "great lie" in 2008 are now having buyer's remorse. With all the education we gave you, you didn't have sense enough to see through the lies and instead drank the kool-aid.

Now you're paying the price and complaining about it.


No jobs, lost mortgages, higher taxes, and less freedom. This is what you voted for and this is what you got. We entrusted you with the 'Torch of Liberty' and you traded it for a paycheck and a fancy house.


Well, don't worry youngsters, the Gray-Haired Brigade is here, and on ELECTION DAY we are going to take back our nation.


We may drive a little slower than you would like but we get where we're going, and next November we're going to the polls by the millions.

This land does not belong to the liar in the White House or to Nancy Pelosi and Harry Reid. It belongs to "We the People", and "We the People" plan to reclaim our land and our freedom. We hope this time you will do a better job of preserving it and passing it along to our grandchildren.


So the next time you have the chance to say the Pledge of Allegiance, stand up, put your hand over your heart, honor our
country, and thank God for the old geezers of the "Gray-Haired Brigade."

In God We Trust,

A-Men Brothers and Sisters


Thursday, August 18, 2011

Haley

My post today is about one of the things I love the most – Haley – my beagle. I’m including some pictures of her. As you can tell from these pictures, she’s overweight (like her Mom), she’s getting older (like her Mom) and she loves to go to the office (with her Mom).

I don’t know if any of you have ever watched the TV show with Cesar Milan and how he trains dogs. I really enjoy the show and have learned a lot from watching it. I admire this man and his family and what he does for dogs. He has a special fondness for pit bulls and tries to educate the people about them and other breeds that people have a misunderstanding about. I really do not believe any dog is born mean/vicious. I believe people make them that way. I also believe God put animals, especially dogs, in this world for us to enjoy…..not abuse. I get a bi-monthly email newsletter from Cesar and today the main article was about how dogs can read humans.

Now, I am pretty sure some of you are laughing at me and think I have gone off the deep end. But on the other side of that coin, I know there are some of you that agree with me. I know Haley knows the difference in my getting ready to go to work and getting ready to go to Church. I don’t know if it is because I have on a dress/skirt when I am going to Church or what it is. But she knows the difference. On work days, I have to tell her to go to her kennel; on Sunday and Wednesday, when I come out of the bedroom, ready to leave, she has already gone to her kennel. I can go in and out of my bedroom 10 times as I am getting ready for my day, but when I put on my shoes, she jumps down off the bed and goes in the kitchen. She know the difference between the tennis shoes I wear when I mow the grass and those I wear at other times. She is my confidant; she listens to all my problems and doesn’t judge; she just loves me unconditionally. If I’ve had a bad day at work she senses that and tries really hard to distract me – she will hide from me, bring me her bone, jump in my lap, etc. as if to say “It’s gonna be okay. I’m here to play with you and help you forget the day”. She’s not much of a cuddle dog, but when I am down/sad, she senses that and at those times, she just comes to me and sits quietly by me or lays her head in my lap and looks at me with those big brown eyes as if to say, “It’s gonna be okay. Tell me what’s wrong and we”ll work it all out”.

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This was taken not long after I got her in 2006. 

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Taken about the same time as the first picture.

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This is one of her favorite places – my bed.  She sleeps with me and sometimes it’s hard to tell who is snoring the loudest.

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This was taken the Christmas Santa brought her a new bed.

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This is her “kennel” at my office.  I can shut the door when I have a client come in. I also have several clients that like for her to come downstairs and visit with them.

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This was taken about a month ago.  We had just come in from mowing the grass and she was waiting, patiently, for me to fill her water bowl.

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I mentioned earlier how she can read my moods.  This pictures shows you what she does when my “temper” comes to the surface.  She has to struggle to get under my bed – she’s too fat and the bed is too low.  But she does it.

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This is waiting for the “all safe, you can come out now”.

I love my little girl very much.  I know she is getting old and I really dread the day she isn’t with me any more.  She is such a lot of company for me.  She is truly a blessing from God.