Wednesday, November 14, 2012
I don't like change. I realize some changes are good and can, in the end, be a blessing. Some are not so great. In the last couple of months, I've thought a lot about some of the changes in my life. In April 1966 I had to deal with a change which rocked my world. My Daddy died...I was only 17. I never, ever expected to loose my Daddy so early in my life. I couldn't get along with my Mama and we made each other miserable. But we both got beyond that hard time in our lives.
Other changes came along; graduation, marriage, divorce, moving to the Outer Banks, marriage (again), children. In 1994 within three months of each other my Mama died and TJ and Ray lost their Granddaddy Jordan . We all struggled with those changes in our lives. Then I was blessed with a granddaughter and a few years later a grandson.
TJ moved away from home to Greenville. Boy, I really missed him. Ray and I continued to live together until he moved to Alaska in 2008. My baby...all those many miles away from me. Then I was home by myself.
I've never minded living by myself. I have a full life. I love to do a lot of things and quite truthfully, I hardly ever get lonesome. I love working for and at my Church; something I never really had the time to do until a couple of years ago.
Now, I am getting ready to experience maybe one of the biggest changes in my life. This change might be difficult for me, considering I am 64 years old. I have worked for someone, other than my parents, since I was 16. In that time I have had four full time employers and two part-time employers. I had the two part-time jobs while I was working for my present employer. I have worked for Melvin since 1974 - 38 years and 10 months. I love my job and consider myself to be truly blessed in that respect. I look forward to going to work on Monday morning, even during tax time. This particular change has been in the works for a few months but for several reasons, I wasn't able to share it with everyone. Effective December 1, I will have a new boss!! Melvin has sold his business. We officially notified all our clients today. I've met the new owner and his wife and really like both of them. I will be working part-time through next tax season, probably until the end of April and maybe some more after that. I've never had a part-time as my main employment. I'm not sure how it will work out. I am so used to getting up and going to work. One more change is taking place in January....I will be drawing Social Security. I'm not sure how I feel about that either. Just thinking about it makes me feel old...er.
Melvin is not a hands-on or look-over-your-shoulder employer. Most days he doesn't come in until late in the afternoon and some days not at all. As long as my work is done I can pretty much do what I want to just as long as I am in the office. I watch movies, play games on the computer, read and sometimes even crochet. I've always considered being able to do those things one of the perks of my job. I can take days off pretty much when I want to. I don't know how things are going to be with Rob. I don't know if he is going to be an employer who expects me to be busy all the time. If so, that will be hard. Sometimes I really don't have anything to do. I'll just have to wait and see.
I am ready to step-out on this new pathway in my life. I've always loved a challenge and I plan to do the very best I can do to make this change in my life a good one.
I said earlier I don't like change but there is one change I am really looking forward to. I really hope I can totally quit work sometime in 2013 and move out closer to my boys. I am still relatively healthy and want to be closer to them while I am still able to do things with and for them. That will be a great change.
Saturday, December 31, 2011
Saturday, December 3, 2011
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
As the holidays approach, the giant Asian factories are kicking into high
gear to provide Americans with monstrous piles of cheaply produced goods --
merchandise that has been produced at the expense of American labor. This
year will be different. This year Americans will give the gift of genuine
concern for other Americans. There is no longer an excuse that, at gift
giving time, nothing can be found that is produced by American hands. Yes
It's time to think outside the box, people. Who says a gift needs to fit in
a shirt box, wrapped in Chinese produced wrapping paper?
Everyone -- yes EVERYONE gets their hair cut. How about gift certificates
from your local American hair salon or barber?
Gym membership? It's appropriate for all ages who are thinking about some
Who wouldn't appreciate getting their car detailed? Small, American owned
detail shops and car washes would love to sell you a gift certificate or a
book of gift certificates.
Are you one of those extravagant givers who think nothing of plunking down
the Benjamin's on a Chinese made flat-screen? Perhaps that grateful gift
receiver would like his driveway sealed, or lawn mowed for the summer, or
driveway plowed all winter, or games at the local golf course.
There are a bazillion owner-run restaurants -- all offering gift
certificates. And, if your intended isn't the fancy eatery sort, what about
a half dozen breakfasts at the local breakfast joint. Remember, folks this
isn't about big National chains -- this is about supporting your home town
Americans with their financial lives on the line to keep their doors open.
How many people couldn't use an oil change for their car, truck or
motorcycle, done at a shop run by the American working guy?
Thinking about a heartfelt gift for mom? Mom would LOVE the services of a
local cleaning lady for a day.
My computer could use a tune-up, and I KNOW I can find some young guy who is
struggling to get his repair business up and running.
OK, you were looking for something more personal. Local crafts people spin
their own wool and knit them into scarves. They make jewelry, and pottery
and beautiful wooden boxes.
Plan your holiday outings at local, owner operated restaurants and leave
your server a nice tip. And, how about going out to see a play or ballet at
your hometown theatre.
Musicians need love too, so find a venue showcasing local bands.
Honestly, people, do you REALLY need to buy another ten thousand Chinese
lights for the house? When you buy a five dollar string of light, about
fifty cents stays in the community. If you have those kinds of bucks to
burn, leave the mailman, trash guy or babysitter a nice BIG tip.
You see, Christmas is no longer about draining American pockets so that
China can build another glittering city. Christmas is now about caring about
US, encouraging American small businesses to keep plugging away to follow
their dreams. And, when we care about other Americans, we care about our
communities, and the benefits come back to us in ways we couldn't imagine.
THIS is the new American Christmas tradition.
Forward this to everyone on your mailing list -- post it to discussion
groups -- throw up a post on Craigslist in the Rants and Raves section in
your city -- send it to the editor of your local paper and radio stations,
and TV news departments. This is a revolution of caring about each other,
and isn't that what Christmas is about?
Friday, November 4, 2011
Good morning everyone. I know you must think I am crazy considering what I put as the subject of this email. If your weather is like my weather, I would not generally describe it as a beautiful morning. But let me tell you a little story and you’ll see where I am coming from.
It all started Sunday morning shortly after I got up. I had a very bad pain in my right shoulder – around on my back in what I call the shoulder muscle. I still had it Monday and Tuesday and by Wednesday it was pretty much a constant pain. I had decided I probably has bursitis. Now I know I’m not a doctor, but the internet is a great thing and I had all the symptoms. At Church Wednesday night I wiggled and squirmed, trying to find a comfortable position. If a child had been sitting beside me doing all that moving, I’m pretty sure I would have told him/her to “sit still”. Finally I sat with the corner of the pew pushing into the muscle and for some reason that eased it off a little.
First thing Thursday morning I went to the doctor. Four hours later….yep….four hours….I find that maybe it’s spurs or arthritis. Not what I wanted to hear. But the doctor wants the radiologist to read the x-rays and give a professional opinion. I respect that because I would rather the doctor not be second-guessing what might be wrong. So it will probably be Monday before I hear anything. She gave me some pain medication. I came back to work and I hate to admit I didn’t get a thing done. But it hurt so bad, I just wanted to crawl in a hole and die!! I picked up the prescription after work, went home and took one of the pills right away. Then I curled up in my recliner and waited for it to start to work. It never did away with the pain but made it tolerable. I took another before I went to bed and finally got a good night’s rest.
I told you all that to tell you why it’s a beautiful morning. When I opened my back door to go to my car, I saw the most beautiful sight. There was a rainbow stretching from one side of the sky to the other. The sky had been very dark when I had let Haley out a little earlier. I stepped back in the house, picked up my camera (which always stays on my kitchen table) and took some pictures. Then as I headed down my road to US 64 I noticed that it was either a double rainbow or a reflection of the first rainbow. I don’t know which, but it was beautiful. I stopped on the side of the road just before I got on the bridge to take more pictures. I just couldn’t help but think of how magnificent God’s creations are. Who can put a rainbow in the sky…God. Why can’t everyone just get that through their heads? I am sure there are some scientists that will explain it all away- gases, or some such thing. But I choose to believe God put it there this morning just to brighten my day. And it really worked.
So, that’s why I say “what a beautiful morning”. I know the sun isn’t shining brightly but I saw God’s promise that He would never destroy the world again with water. It just brought to mind all the other promises He has made.
I hope you can open the pictures. The first two are taken from my back porch. The last one is taken at the foot of the Manns Harbor Bridge looking North. I hope you can see the second rainbow in that picture. It’s very faint and to the right.
Have a great day everyone.
Monday, October 10, 2011
Hey friends. It’s been a long time since I sent out an email….since shortly after Irene and that was just an update on my situation. I’ve heard from several of you wanting to know if I was okay and when was I going to start sending out emails again. So I guess tonight is the night.
If you noticed the subject line of this email you are probably wondering what I am going to write about. I’m giving you an early warning….I am going to get on my soapbox again so if you want to quit reading now, that is quite okay with me.
Now before I get hundreds of responses to this email telling me about all the situations that don’t fit my scenario, I realize there are exceptions to what I am going to say.
My Webster’s dictionary is very old; the copyright date is 1961. But I don’t honestly believe the definition of the two words I am going to talk about have changed since then.
Webster defines “lady” as a woman of refinement and gentle manners and a “gentlemen” as a man whose conduct conforms to a high standard of propriety or correct behavior. There are many other definitions of each word but they don’t apply to what I am going to talk about. Sad to say, I don’t know many men and women that deserve either of these titles today. And even sadder, it’s been that way for a while. I don’t often use either of those terms anymore; I can count on one hand, and have fingers left over, the number of ladies and gentlemen I know.
Most young people today don’t really seem to care what others think of them. They seem content to believe the world owes them a living and they can say anything they please or do anything they please without suffering any consequences. There is no sanctity in marriage or parenthood anymore. Men and women think nothing of living together without being married. They will tell you it’s easier; if they discover they can’t live together, they don’t have to go through a divorce. There’s no real incentive to work to keep the relationship strong. When I talk about this particular thing, I am guilty also. I lived with my husband for two years before we got married and the marriage still didn’t last. I look back now and realize how wrong it was and how both of us were cheated.
Parenthood….I don’t think many young people realize today exactly what that entails. Again, many children are born without the advantage of their parents being married. Often times, but not always, these children end up in the “system” because there is no responsibility involved. I see so many children today being raised by grandparents, and in some situations, the child is better off. There are many women that continue to have child after child because they don’t have to work and can get aid for each of these children. There are hundreds of men that aren’t taking care of their children, either in the home itself or by paying child support. The children are the ones who suffer in these cases. Several of the children that are picked up each Sunday morning by the van from my Church fit in this category. Sad to say, the only real attention some of them get is the short time they spend in Church on Sunday morning.
I got off my original subject about ladies and gentlemen so let me see if I can get back on track. I have a really hard time understanding how a woman who will wear a thong on the public beach can get upset when rude comments are made about her. Doesn’t she realize the picture she is putting out there for the world to see? They wear skirts that are so short that when they sit they have to put their hand in their lap so you don’t see their underwear; they go braless with thin shirts and think this is perfectly acceptable dress. Some of them wear their clothes so tight they look like they can hardly breathe. And a lot of these girls are still living at home with their parents, are in middle school and their parents allow them to dress this way.
Boys and men…..why do you think we want to see your underwear? What gives you the idea that this is appropriate dress? You really look retarded when you have to either hold your pants up when you walk or you have to pull them back up with every step you take. And even worse, to wear these pants and not have on any underwear. Lord, please spare me. And again, some of these boys are still living under their parent’s roof and their parents allow this. I thank the good Lord, I never had this problem in my home. TJ never wanted to dress that way and Ray tried it once and soon realized he didn’t want to dress that way either.
In case you are wondering why I got on this rant tonight, I’ll tell you. Today when I went to the post office, I saw a young man and woman (maybe in their middle 20’s) walking across the parking lot. Her skirt was so short you could see her underwear when she walked (by the way it was red), she had on a thin white tank top without a bra and she definitely needed one. The man had on a pair of pants with the seat between his knees and his underwear was white with blue stripes; his shirt was unbuttoned, which didn’t bother me too much except that he had an extremely large stomach hanging out. This couple walked along kissing, he was fondling her, she had her hand tucked down the back of his pants and she was pushing a baby stroller with a beautiful little girl in it. I just wanted to smack both of them.
I hope I haven’t offended anyone by this email. It just really bothers me to see what is and has been happening to the young people in our country. I really and truly feel sorry for them. So many of them are ruining their lives…babies having babies…and planning it. I guess all I can do is pray for them and I do. I hope you will too. As I said at the beginning of this email, I realize not all men and women are this way. There are some very nice young men and women out there; they are responsible and living a responsible life. I’m not talking about them. I just wish those I am talking about would wake up, take a good long look at themselves and change their lives before it is too late.
Sorry this email was so long. I guess I just needed to get this off my chest. I hope all of you have a great week.
We are having revival at my Church this week starting Wednesday night. Russell Bell will be bringing the messages and services start at 7:00 each night and it ends Sunday morning with the 10:45 worship service followed by Homecoming dinner. Maybe I’ll see some of you there. I can promise you a blessing if you come.